Reparenting Yourself With Compassion

With the year 2024 coming to a close, we can easily feel discouragement over anything that feels left undone or incomplete. It’s likely you are seeing social media posts about accomplishments and goals of others that you wish you had claim to. Often, this can motivate us to set yet again more goals for the new year. If you’re like most people, those goals will be forgotten by February. This can create a cycle of defeat that lasts through the next 11 months until we get back to this place again, and the only thing that’s changed is the year.

I’m not here to tell you to try harder in 2025. If all you did was survive 2024, that’s enough.
But I also know, that if you’re reading this, it’s because you want more. You want to be thriving. It’s not too much to ask.

Shaming ourselves about our failures never creates change. Change happens when we can honestly embrace our failures and setbacks with compassion. Set all the resolutions or goals you want. There’s nothing wrong with the goals. Where the disconnect happens is when we treat ourselves like failures.

For many of us, there was no example of a loving parent. And the examples we do see are figments of someone’s imagination. A large part of healing is learning to reparent ourselves. It can feel clunky and awkward at first—kinda like a New Year’s resolution—but with practice, it starts to gel and become second nature.

We can start now by noticing how talking about this feels in your body. Where does it hurt? Is it a familiar ache? What images or memories does it bring up for you? What age were you the first time you remember this feeling? What need did you have then that never got met?
Here’s where we find out how to parent ourselves. It’s in the longing for what we never got that we discover how to show up for ourselves now. It’s that simple. I didn’t say it was easy. But it is simple.

Let’s work together and I’ll support you in this process. Not just for a few sessions, but the whole year!
Let’s do it!

Eva

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