Your joy is a threat.

Your strength, intolerable.

So they must make you smaller.

Weaker.

Less than.

They blame everyone.

Pity only themselves.

They need you to be the enemy,

so they can always be the victim.

Just like sound waves can move water or sand, frequencies shape our internal and external experiences. This is why music can stir such deep emotions. Words, thoughts, and even the way we speak to ourselves hold power.

The good news is—you can shift your frequency. Awareness is the first step. By recognizing where you are on the emotional scale, you gain the ability to move upward. Therapy is a powerful place to explore this, to process stuck emotions, and to reclaim your energy.

Boundaries are such a popular concept now, and it seems like everyone on social media is talking about having them. And they’re right; they are great to have. They actually protect the important relationships so that you don’t get to the point I was. But it’s undervalued how difficult it is to establish boundaries, much less enforce them. You need a support system to back you up and remind you of why you’re doing the whole thing. And if you don’t have that, it’s nearly impossible to get much traction.

In a healthy family system, respect is the guiding undertone. Interactions aren’t power plays or manipulation. Individuals are free to be themselves without fear of retribution for not following along. There’s no need to keep members “close” through control because with freedom comes the desire for authentic closeness.

Sexual abuse betrays us into believing we aren’t in control, that we must abandon our intuition and sense of self in order to maintain connection. Healing from sexual abuse enables us to trust ourselves again, to advocate for what we want and deserve, and to rebuild a foundation of safety and autonomy. 

We don’t have to keep making life any harder on ourselves than it already is. I’m going to make this my challenge and maybe even make a game of it. I’m sick of feeling overwhelmed, but yet at the same time, like I’m never doing enough.

No matter your faith—or if you’re uncertain what you believe—it’s welcome here. We can unpack it together, free of judgment and without needing a polished, picture-perfect version of your spirituality.

Here’s the catch: your focus determines your reality. If you spend your time gathering evidence that life is hard, unfair, or stacked against you, guess what? You’ll find it. But if you shift your focus to a narrative of possibility, growth, and empowerment, you’ll start to notice the opportunities and support that align with that mindset.

I know the fears, doubts, and feelings of despair that come with abuse. I also know that finding your way out isn’t just about leaving a harmful situation—it’s about reclaiming your sense of self, building resilience, and learning to trust your voice again.

I’m not here to tell you to try harder in 2025. If all you did was survive 2024, that’s enough.
But I also know, that if you’re reading this, it’s because you want more. You want to be thriving. It’s not too much to ask.